I recently read an article by John Ortberg called, “Higher Stakes Friendships.”  He talked about “five rules of friendship” a group of guys used as guidelines for their conversations.  The “five rules”:

  1. We can ask anything, no holds barred.
  2. If you answer, you must tell the truth, as much as you know it.
  3. If you don’t answer, you must say why you won’t or can’t answer.
  4. Everything that is said to each other will be held in absolute confidence.
  5. We will make absolutely no judgments of each other.

I think these 5 rules are powerful.  The only thing I would want to add is whilst we won’t make judgments on each other, the importance of speaking truth into one another’s lives.  I am glad that I have some guys who I can and do have these kind of conversations with.

I just wanted to encourage you to chase after these higher stakes friendships.

Married to the amazing Sarah and raising Jakey, Daniel, Amelia, Josh & Jonah in our blended family. Passionate for Jesus, social work & sport.

Leave a Reply

Your email address will not be published. Required fields are marked *

This site uses Akismet to reduce spam. Learn how your comment data is processed.